well it seems to be better now..
a few days ago it was up for 2 days straight, now its at 60+ hours uptime..
so at least it doesnt seem to be crashing anymore. I havent exactly been watching so i dont know about the player drops, but its better overall lately lol.
not totally sure what the problem was before but i think it was a new bugfix i added to a plugin.. Not completely sure tho as i have been busy trying to fix my pc and not worrying about the server
i had thought that it might have been an sql problem but the logs didnt show any failed sql connections so im not totally sure if thats it
and the amxx stats stuff is off for the most part.. i found the built in amxx /rank /stats etc stuff causes a lot of problems.. and can create lag in most cases. So that stuff is pretty much off
hopefully things are better now