ok so far so good now (after 4 reinstalls lol)
figured out the problem i had, it was with directory opus (my win explorer replacement i use) ..had to set it to not automatically replace explorer on its own, kinda sucks lol but better then nothing
and also had trouble with the nforce chipset drivers, only 2 out of like 8 or 9 of them would install, but ran it in vista sp2 compatibility mode and they all seemed to install and work now